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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
What's the beef with marriage?
One part having grown up around them and their daily arguments and using me as a punching bag or mediator and one part feeling as if I will lose complete sense of freedom-which is wrong, I know-and that feeling makes me claustrophobic. I have yet to meet anyone that has understood my deep desire for autonomy or parallel existens within a relationship.
They say they do but when involvement gets deeper so does their obsession with keeping me "under control".
My sense of "freedom" would be: not having to explain, verbally, everything that I say, do or think as of I were a complete alien. I like when things flow. And I am progressive so discussions about yesterday's discussion will not work for me. And I also like to travel alone and go out to bars/restaurants alone for a bite for the simple reason that I "research" people and their behavior.
(I'm into psychology..and patterns) This does not seem to work for most men I've met.
So, why is marriage for me when I need so much alone-time?